What's a Woman Worth?

I never speak out about hot topics. It's not that I don't have opinions or that I am too concerned with what others think. I simply believe that most hot topics or controversial subjects require some conversation and even better - a relationship. The few that read my blog know my heart well. And, if you stumble upon this, well, I pray the grace of God covers my words and that there is understanding and love received. Feel free to read some of my other posts to learn more about who I am.

I am fairly simple. Nothing fancy about me.

My heart for Christ, my desire to follow Christ is steeped in continued waves of grace. Half of the time I am stumbling, falling, and always figuring things out.

I have convictions. I have my own values. I don't feel the need to preach them. I just simply try to live by them.

What I do feel the need to share is Christ and His incredible love. Christ and His sweet and precious grace. I want others to know their value and worth in Him. When I write, I write because I feel inspired. I wouldn't call myself a writer, just someone looking to share who Christ is through an outlet.

So, that's it. I like to talk about Christ and how He feels about us.

So, here it is, this is a little reminder for myself, the ladies out there, and my sweet daughter (who I will say this to often).

Dear beautiful girl, you were planned and known before you were a thought in your mama's sweet head. You were intricately formed. Each curve, each line, each imperfection, each near perfection. You were created in His image, and He knows you by name. He made you beautiful and important. Your worth is unfathomable and inexpressible. Just suffice to say, He knows our name, our story, and He still loves us and gives us purpose.

This is just something I'm thinking about.

I have only done a little research on Fifty Shades of Grey. I haven't read the book and I don't plan to watch the movie. But I saw enough to be concerned, so I did my research. And, it is disturbing on many levels - to say the least.

All I can think of is my sons or daughter seeing the movie and what it would say to them. What would it say to them about the value of women - physically and emotionally? I think about the many women - young and old - that I have counseled in ministry that got a taste of what this movie portrays. Yet it wasn't Hollywood style and there was no moral to the story. It was just plain bitter abuse that left them scarred and broken until they found freedom and new life. And for those of you that promote the moral of the story (I heard and read there was one) - I get it. I have a degree in theatre. We thespians are all about the lesson to be learned and often I support that in theatre - the end can often justify the means. Yet, I am just not feeling it this time around. Because what you have to bank on in that situation is that each person (young and old at any varied levels of intellect) that sees your show will be able to see past the means to get to the end. And from what I have seen-it's just not worth the risk. And for me and my house, it's not worth the time. Good grief, I have enough trouble keeping my heart and mind straight and living in joy - I don't need pointless and unnecessary theatre to make it worse.

That said, though, my point here is to scream as loud as my little, unknown blog will allow and reach through to women and girls, men and boys - and simply say:

Please, please - amidst the theatrics - please don't forget that Jesus loves women (and men for that matter - even the wounded ones that abuse out of their own pain). He values them and He bled for them. And beyond that, even if you don't follow a certain faith, we must believe that women have value and worth and this piece of entertainment seems to grossly demean a woman's worth physical and emotionally.

We must believe that the love that God created was pure, devoted, sacrificial, freeing, and so much more. Geez, we will be screaming and shouting above the culture to teach our boys and girl true love, respect for the opposite sex, and more.

I guess the point of all of this for me is that I simply don't want to shrug it off and say, "Well, Hollywood will be Hollywood. It will pass. It's a book and a movie."

And no, I haven't read the book-but I have done some research. I listened to multiple interviews with the two stars and the author. I have read several synopsis. I have read multiple, sound critic reviews.

Jamie Dornan, the male lead, was quoted in several articles stating the following,

"I wonder what it is about this set of books that has, excuse my pun, penetrated the global market," he says in his soft-grained Irish brogue. "What is it that's just so on the pulse of what women want?"

And, that my friends, is what bothers me. This is what women want?

And I know it is a fictional story made for entertainment (although, why the heck is this considered quality entertainment?). Yet, here is what I think of when I read about this movie - trafficked victims that we are so desperately trying to free, women and children whom have shared their stories of physical and emotional abuse, broken and loveless marriages, marriages teetering on unhealthiness and looking for a reason to try and make it work, adults and teens trying to overcome porn addiction, men and women with anger problems that abuse from a place of deep wounds and pain themselves, women with rooted in the need for love and attention, sweet young boys and men looking for what's right and what's wrong. All I can think of is me, is you, is us. Frail humanity desperately searching for more and desperately wanting to know joy and freedom. Us, humanity, always needing grace - not something else to bring us down. And I think how will this entertainment encourage or bring life to us, and what negative affects will it have when it goes beyond entertainment for some?

Call me crazy, call me old fashioned, and tell me I am making too big of a deal about it. But, it bothers me. And not even really just because I follow Christ. Just simply because what it represents bothers me.

I read this, this week from Ann Voskamp. And I loved how she described a woman's value to Christ. You can read her full blog here.

Christ never beat down a woman with harsh words or lusting eyes or sneering innuendos, but He stepped in and stopped a broken woman from the abuse of angry men. Christ came to the defense of a hurting woman and the Son of Man stood between her ache and her attackers and He lifted the weight of shame from her and cupped her heart with hope and wrote a new future into the dust and dirt of everything and he saved. her. life. That’s how God loves His daughters with His defense.

That Christ didn’t degrade women in His talk, but He made women heroes in His stories. He invited a woman with a coin and broom to reveal the truth about the Kingdom of God. He honored an intentional woman with an unjust judge as unveiling the character of God. He elevated a lonely, unmarried woman who dropped her meager resources into the temple treasury as the rebuke of God for all the rich and religious. That’s how God loves His daughters with His words.

That Christ didn’t demonize women but He accepted the presence of a woman reviled by the self-righteous, He sat with the scandalous woman the righteous regarded as damaged goods, He welcomed the rejected and the immodest though he lost the respect of the religious. That’s how God loves His daughter with His grace.

That when Christ stepped out of that black tomb, he still didn’t choose to first manifest Himself to prestigious officials, religious leaders, the Twelve, but instead He revealed Himself first to the women, He entrusted the veracity of His resurrection to the testimony of the women, He offered the privilege of proclaiming Christ as the risen Savior to the women, though no court at the time would accept their testimony. That’s how God loves His daughters with His regard.